A Gardeners Forum Forums Members History Forum Life 2006 Prayer & Get Well Wishes List, Part III

Hi everyone ~

My best friend Angel's son, Nate, age 15, lives in another town with his dad. Last night, Nate's girlfriend Tabitha was struck by a car and killed while she was walking home. She was also 15.

Please let us remember these young people and their families in prayer.

Merme

Oh, Merme...that is awful!

They will be in my prayers for sure...all of them.
Poor Nate ...what a tender age to have his heart broken in such a way.


Cindy

Merme, I've been praying...

How is Nate doing...that's so sad.

Angel told me on Saturday that Nate has finally started speaking a tiny bit about it. At first he was too shocked and upset to say anything. He is a private kind of kid, anyway, so this will be hard for him to process. Angel tried to set him up with a pastor to converse with and Nate got angry... he just isn't ready yet. The funeral will be on Monday.

It is so difficult when an entire community gets impacted by a sudden death... the kids just have a hard time when it is one of their peers.

Merme

Yes, it impacts the young more than we realize I think. In 8th grade a classmate of mine commited suicide and it was horrible. And back then there was no special counseling or explanations or anything like that.

I pray that Nate get's some healing for his heart and the comfort that he needs. So tragic, especially right around the holidays. Was the person driving the car at fault? Most people would assume yes, but I know there were times when I was a teen that we would walk the "West Virginia side" to the neighboring town....Winding roads, and no sidewalks...sometimes we'd walk it at night with dark clothes on......If you hit and killed someone it would be an awful guilt to carry around with you for the rest of your life.

Oh, Merme... I'm so sorry to hear this devastating story -
I know how very difficult it must be for Nate right now...

My nephew still has not been able to contact his roommate -
the one whose brother died in a car crash while home for Thankgiving break.

There are just tooooo many of these tragedies...
I hope Nate is able to find someone that he can confide his feelings to very soon. What happened to him is unthinkable...

Today our priest dedicated the entire Celebration of The Eucharist to Tabitha in her remembrance and asked for strength, peace, and healing for her loved ones.

I know this might sound peculiar, but I've been praying a special sort of prayer for Nate... that as he matures, he can cherish the memory of the real Tabitha for the girl she was when he knew her and allow that girl to be a special, beloved part of his past and not cling to her as "the only woman" -- you know?

Young love is so fragile and so intense, yet so quicksilvery coming and going as it does at times with the seasons. Since they did not have a chance to allow their relationship to take it's natural course -- and who knows where it might have led? -- I would not wish for him out of his pain to begin evaluating all future girls by the standard of the painfully lost one. Does that make any sense?

Merme

Very, very sad Merme, sending hugs, prayers to the families.

Poor Tabitha's funeral was today...





May her rest this day be in the paradise of God.


Merme

It makes perfect sense Merme. I have recently been thinking about my son's girlfriend and how she is left with the memory of the "perfect" boyfriend. Perfect because he died before he could let her down. She is very tall and very heavy and no one had ever been interested in her so it was a gift when a handsome young man who never in his life cared what anyone looked like thought she was special. I also hope that it doesn't color her impression of other men as she enters into future relationships. Inevitably that first love lets us down but when the first love dies it romanticizes the relationship in a way that probably would not have played out the same way in reality. And fifteen is such a tender age - right on the cusp of maturity but still children at heart. Thinking of him and of you because any loss, especially a child, is hard on everyone around.

Bev ~ Would you mind if I copied your post and emailed it to my friend Angel? I think what you wrote would be very helpful for her as Nate's mom to be better able to help him through this thing.

And oh, I'm sorry for your own very personal loss.


Merme

Today...my thoughts and prayers are with you Cindy Friend...and your family...


~V~

that would be fine Merme.

Let us all remember to pray for Bev, her family, and her dad until we hear from her again...

Merme

Hi everyone ~

My friend Angel, mom to Nate, asked me if I would post this email to all of you:

"I would like to thank everyone for their prayers and support. Maybe someday the family will know how much Tabbee"s story has reached so many across the country.

Nate has finally confided in his friends, huge step for him, and decided to go to the funeral service. He has started to grieve which is the first step to healing.

Please continue to pray for Tabbee"s family as loss of a child never really ends.

Again thank you all for your support and prayers for my son and your care and support for my very special friend Merme.

Angel"

Thanks you guys.
Merme

Let's all remember Melcon's surgery for this Friday at 8:30 AM.

And, keep in mind that a big snow storm is predicted for Friday...

Merme

Please also remember our (mine and afgrey's) cousin's husband in your prayers. Tomorrow he has both valves in his heart replaced.

Thank you,
Les

Yes...please remember Craig in your prayers, friends.
He is in surgery right now.

Shamrock,Cindy prayers going up for Craig Hope he comes through with flying colors
Jimmy

Please remember my youngest son Alan in your prayers. Just got E-Mail from his mother they found more tumors in his groin,and along his spine. Sorry I can't remember everywhere she said don't have much of a mind tday. According to her he said he will not take Chemo or anything for cancer if that is what it turns out to be. Most will remember he lost one testical to cancer earlier this year so he is not looking forward to this he is 31 y/o.
Jimmy

Praying for Craig and Alan.

Sending strong wishes that Craig and Alan get through their ordeals smoothly and come out with a clean bill of health.

I would like to add my daughter to the prayer chain that we have here at The Gardener's Forum. And, please, say a little one for me, too...

Dianna

oh, Dianna... I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter is not doing well.
I'm sending lots of hugs and well wishes to you and her,
in hopes that you both are on the mend soon!

Praying for your daughter, Dianna...and you.