Ciao Danno,
Your enthusiasm is just too cute. First of all, I think you just need to take a deep breath, you're doing fine. What happened is that you started veggies together that have HUGELY different germination and
growing rates. Cucurbits, the cucumber family grow FAST and get HUGE quickly. I usually wait to
plant those in peat pots straight away after the tomatoes get transplanted outside. They come up almost immediately and get big enough to transplant in only a week or 2. I actually sowed squash
seeds directly last year at the same time the tomatoes went into the ground and they did fine as well. We have a huge problem with earwigs who like to eat tender transplants so it's always my big goal to beat the little dinosaurs out of the ground by planting cucurbits a little bit earlier and cover them if necessary so I don't have to deal with emaciated
plants later from bug damage.
You just need a little patience with your
pepper seedlings. Sometimes they can take over a month to germinate, but usually it's between 1-3 weeks and they do grow slowly. We're in about the same
zone as you are and my boyfriend started his
peppers on 25 February. They're about 8" tall now and some have set
flowers, but some are also only 2" tall.
Best of luck with your garden and keep us posted!
Julianna