We seem to be in agreement that softening agents are harmful to
plants.
Hard water is high in mineral content; too high for good
plant health. The nutrients and minerals that
plants need should be in the soil, not in the water.
The amount of fluoride in normal drinking water is not high enough to cause problems for
plants. However, perlite and superphosphate fertilizers are both potent sources of fluoride that should be avoided with fluoride sensitive
plants, especially Dracaenas, spider
plants and peace lilies.
Chlorine is also not generally an issue for
plants in concentrations used in most drinking water. Chlorinated swimming pool water would be a problem.
Acid rain is a problem in certain areas of the country that are downwind from industrial areas that emit smokestack pollutants. It is devasting to local forests. If it is not a problem in your area, then collecting rainwater is a good source of water for
plants. Filtered and distiled water are also good options.