The plants are huge...but where's the broccoli??? I bet the plant stands about 24" high right now.
And something keeps knocking my little tomato buds off the vine...what's up with that???

I'm not sure I can help with the broccoli. That is a new problem to me. The tomatoes, however, are a different story. Do you have any dogs that get into the garden? Do the kids go in there? (I know I was my mother's garden nemisis when I was a wee one.) Or how about the cats? Unless you have extremely gusty days, I'd look for a human/animal component for the buds dropping. Also, try touching one yourself. If it falls off after a gentle brush, then there might be a problem with the plant.

Well, it didn't fall off when I touched it, so I am thinking the cats are using them as batting practice.

that happened to me too, with the brocolli and cauliflower. the deer ate then down to nothing almost, they grew back huge but only one cauliflower grew. i have heard of this elswhere on the net, no answer yet. we had lots of rain and very cool temps but i thought brocolli that humm. now i am very courious.