thank you both for your quick reply.
for mrs. bradley, i don't think the water on the bottom trick works in idaho, it's so unbelievably dry out here! (hasn't worked on other
plants, i've tried)
it also is out of direct sunlight, i know some
plants that will damage.
i give it a deep water about once every 5 days, and there is usually water in the drip pan after i do.
i have no idea how to post a picture, but to describe it - it's leaves/stems resemble that of a palm
tree, not that stiff though, and it has many stems, from a foot tall to a few feet tall. it doesn't appear to grow very fast.