I'm really no tree
person, but I know a tiny bit,
I am hopin' someone will come in and help a wee~bit more with your tree
But here's one question I might answer...
do i stake it at a certain time or what.
If the tree
is little enough, I'd not stake it,plant
it regular how you did and tap the dirt around the base/roots, and make a firm contact with the soil..
But when growing plants
, they must learn to put out their own roots, and they put out
certain kinds, like the one's to feed it's self, but also one's to stablize it's self too...
And if you stake them, they have no reason to put those types of roots, because the staking stablizes them..
so, I personally wouldn't..
How tall was the tree
If it was of some good size, I might stake it for a very short period of time, but then take it off.
I know how senimental some plants
or things can be, my dad passed away, and I have several of his plants
he gave me and some rocks from his rock garden, and those little things that remind you of them...
on how your tree