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#118478 March 8th, 2005 at 12:20 AM
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Hi everyone ~

Do any of you remember that last year while we were posting about our personal Christmas wishes, I said I wished my Loved One would simply say the words? He's been showing me for years now with all his might all the wonderful things he feels about me, but still, I've been hoping to hear his magnificent voice say his feelings.

My Christmas Wish came true yesterday! And I swear to you all, it was the loveliest sound I've ever heard. It wasn't just hearing those simple words but also the look on his face, his gesture, the tone of voice he used, the place and time...oh, somehow the entire moment was wrapped up in a delightful simplicity that made his sincerity seem so sterling.

Ever since, I've been hearing those words re-echoing in my ears, and it's been soothing my sometimes lost little heart. I know with a certainty that somehow, hearing him say the words strengthened me and helped me grow up into them. Is that idea too weird? What I mean is just so hard to explain!

I've known for ages how he felt because he makes it so clear in every possible situation, yet somehow I was too childish to trust what he was showing me in his soul. Then, when the words came out of his mouth, he made it such a gift that I stood there a second in his arms and felt my juvenile fears melt away. I will never doubt this man again.

Trust doesn't come easy to me. My Ex's adultry, coming out of the blue as it did, nearly slayed me and for years afterwards, I didn't think I'd ever really recover. So I'm easily spooked, tis true enough.

So now I'm wondering about the rest of you. When did you first hear your loved one tell you the truth of his heart toward you? Did the relationship change instantly or deepen over time? Did hearing it change you in some way or how you thought of him?

Ok, ok, I admit these are nosy questions! But don't fault a woman in love for wanting to hear more about it from other women she trusts and admires! You guys have spoiled me rotten with your generous posts, so I'm hoping you won't mind me asking this as well.

Merme

#118479 March 8th, 2005 at 12:39 AM
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Well, as much as I like to bear my soul here, lala I guess I'm not qualified to answer this one!
Gee...I can't believe you stumped me, Merme! laugh

Sincere congratulations to you, though!
I'm very happy for you!

Cindy

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Merme, I'm happy for you thumbup --it's always so nice to hear the words outloud....sometimes men think you are supposed to just know that they love you.

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So now I'm wondering about the rest of you. When did you first hear your loved one tell you the truth of his heart toward you? Did the relationship change instantly or deepen over time? Did hearing it change you in some way or how you thought of him?
The first I love you from my husband probably happened several months into the relationship....the first year of our relationship we were inseperable. I think that it strengthened the relationship almost instantly, but our love has also deepened greatly over time. Marks a manly kind of man and having him be so taken with me was really great(for lack of a better word). My friends would say to me "Laura he's so in love with you, when you are together it's like you are the only person in the room". I admire him so much for not being a closed off kind of guy--he's very open with his feelings. His love is honestly the purest kind of love--he's loved me through many lows, not just the highs. He's fiercely loyal, and we very rarely ever fight---I know that this is the man I will grow old with--he's my best friend.

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OK... here comes the long sappy response. And this is the longest post, by far, that I've ever seen. I'm just sort of a natural story teller so, be warned!

And a big congrats to you dear! I'm happy that your wish has come true! thumbup <img border="0" alt="[clappy]" title="" src="graemlins/clappy.gif" />

My story starts with a tragedy. A little over 2 years ago, my DH passed away very suddenly. Our very good friend "M" (a nickname) lost his wife three years prior and came to my aid through DH's brief illness and later passing. His late wife and My DH were very good friends and it only was natural that he and I would be good friends.

He came over every night so that he could sort of watch over me and just be there if I needed it. We spent most of our nights watching TV or movies and I made sure he was well fed after not having a lady to cook for him for so long. He'd always been a dear friend to me, going back nearly 8 years now. I cooked for him off and on after he'd lost his wife, just so that he'd have company. Although he never much felt lonely because he has so many loved ones, I felt good doing it.

After 4 months passed, I was starting to mourn a little deeper. I always seemed to know what I needed when I needed it. At this time, I decided it would be a good time to dispurse some of DH's ashes. I invited dear M to come along as I shouldn't travel alone to where I was going to scatter them and I shouldn't be alone doing something so emotionally distressing anyhow. Mind you, leading up to this time, I'd found myself looking as cute as I could when he was around. I'd look at myself in the mirror and ask myself what the hell I was doing. Was I THAT lonely for physical affection that I'd ruin a good friendship for it?

I was broke at the time and could only afford 1 hotel room. We got two beds, of course. I actually went to Victoria's Secret and bought a cute PJ set. Nothing racy, LOL. But terribly cute. And something that covered my body plenty. shocked

After both of us finished sobbing hysterically at the ash scattering, we had a lovely weekend just spending time and talking. (A little off-roading always helps too, LOL)

A couple weeks later, we'd found us spending all our spare time together. I couldn't go a day without seeing him. I'd wait for his call every day. 3:30 sharp on my cell phone.

Then one night, I absolutely could not say goodnight. I could not let him leave. I wanted him to stay. So many late nights he'd been with me, I'd offered him the couch, no wanting him to drive that late. But he alway refused. Again, I offered him the couch. Again he refused. He stayed on a while longer, until 3:00 AM I think. I absolutely had to go to bed with work the next day. He said he'd stay until I fell asleep, sort of knowing that's what I needed.

We were best friends and we'd had a wonderful enchanted weekend together. We'd spent every day together. He was truly my best friend. So exauhsted, I climbed into my jammies... the same cute ones I bought a few weeks before. I came out to the living room and said good night. To which he said "I love you." I replied "I love you too."

I was so tired that I didn't fully comprehend the implications. The next morning, I got an email from him professing his love and apologizing for being so forward so soon. He suggested we spend time apart until I can better cope. I told him I wasn't scared away, I didn't want time apart, I just wanted him to be there as my best friend, always. Whether that meant things stayed as they were or changed later on, it wouldn't matter... Just as long as I always had him.

We met the next day and I told him that I would be fine as long as we stayed where we were in our friendship for a while, at least until I started coming out of my haze of mourning. He agreed that this would be the wiser course. 10 minutes later he kissed me.

Schmuck.

Fast forward 2 years. We're engaged and talking kids. cool The end!

#118482 March 8th, 2005 at 03:36 PM
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Originally posted by Merme:

Trust doesn't come easy to me. My Ex's adultry, coming out of the blue as it did, nearly slayed me and for years afterwards, I didn't think I'd ever really recover. So I'm easily spooked, tis true enough.
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Trust is very hard to earn after you have been through something like that. I have stayed divorced for the past 24 years after my ex-husband proved he wasn't forever material.

I met Jim in 2001. He was recently separated from his wife of 25 years. I was very nervous dating him because there was always the chance that he would go back to her. Nearly four years later, he is still by my side. We have bought a home and land together and are making plans for our wedding.

If Jim's feelings for me were going to change to the negative, they should have done so by now. When I was formally diagnosed with MVP/S (a heart valve problem with a syndrome to go with it) in February 2002, it has been a roller coaster ride with my health that he has shared with me. When I am afraid of something that is affecting me, he searches for more information to share with me on the computer. He has stood by me through every chest pain, migraine, exhaustion, etc. I don't know what I would have done without him.

Trust did not come easy for me, but I know that Jim has earned it and more. Whether you realize it or not, Merme, you trust your Loved One, too. You would not have been wanting those three little words so much if you didn't. Just savor the moment and give to him all that you have been holding back. Enjoy love at its finest!

Dianna

#118483 March 8th, 2005 at 04:45 PM
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Boy, I feel like Stephen and I moved ultra fast when it came to this. We were probably together for all but 3 weeks when he first said it. We used to get together between classes and watch movies or take a nap. I remember we had laid down for a nice nap and he rolled over and held me and said "I love you" and gave me a kiss on the forehead. He's sweet like that.

Of course, we were informally engaged after dating for about 3 months also. smile

#118484 March 8th, 2005 at 05:39 PM
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Merme, I am so happy for you! Reading all the posts has gotten me all teary eyed! It really is wonderful when it happens!

Gdaughter

#118485 March 8th, 2005 at 11:44 PM
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Mine said it when we were just going together for a month, it's been 15 years since then and I haven't heard it again.

I guess why buy the cow once your gettin the milk for free. laugh

#118486 March 9th, 2005 at 12:04 AM
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luv luv Hi Merme,
So very glad you finally got to hear and believe in the 3 little words we all want to hear......
Lets see I think I heard them first after about 2 weeks of dating my hubby- we worked together at that time- so did see alot of each other then but that is rather fast- must have worked though is going to be 28 yrs in a few days-- guess we are doing something right...LOL!

#118487 March 21st, 2005 at 05:23 AM
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On this endlessly fascinating topic of romance, I need to know something. Would you guys tell me if you thought I was crazy?

When my Loved One walks into a room -- and it doesn't matter where we are, what we are doing, or even if he is paying attention to me directly -- it feels like flowers start to bloom. I'm not kidding. He walks into a place and the whole world bursts into bloom. I swear it does. And he walks so softly, too.

So do ya think maybe I've lost my mind? nutz

Gosh, I hope not!

Merme

#118488 March 21st, 2005 at 08:45 AM
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I think you're in a state of Superlove Merme ^.^ Congrats!! I'm so happy for you!

~Phoebe

#118489 March 22nd, 2005 at 06:08 PM
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kissies Merme,
That is perfectly normal - even after 28 years I am still suprised when I look up and see my hubby doing something especially endearing = like changeing the 2 yr olds "yucky" diapers without asking for help cause he knows I am doing something else- definitly not his favorite chore- now that says true love more than all the flowers and choc in the world...... and new love is precious - enjoy !


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