Cindy, my prayers are with you and your family as well...you know I love you hon!
So, as everyone has spoken about their beliefs in "prayer" I will add my half cents worth....because I have been thinking about this a lot...especially the past week.
I was raised in a VERY strict Christian home, my father was a Pastor, that was pretty much all I ever knew. Both sets of my grandparents were also very "strict" in their beliefs. Even as a child, I have always LOVED going to church...always..and still do. But....I found out at a VERY early age, that our faith cannot be put in our church or even our family. My father was a VERY cruel person...he eventually left the church, died a very lonely and awful death...but that is another story all together. My point being...our faith must be in God alone. I do believe that sometimes when we feel that God has not heard/answered our prayers that, the answer may very well be no. When "bad" things happen to people, you will often hear others say it is because of "sin" in their live...I am sorry, I don't believe that for one minute! We do,however, put ourselves in a position to reap unpleasant benifits of bad decisions that WE make...and yes, God allows them to happen...for us to learn.(some of US do NOT learn well!) But, just as you would NOT intentionally bring harm or hurtful things to your children...God does not do that to his children as well. As far as the ...I do this & that..(smoke, drink, cuss...whatever) I believe that is between you & your maker. He has laws for us to abide to and some are very specific (check out the 10 comandments) I happen to be a very prayerful person...not a PERFECT person...but very prayerful. I take requests for prayer very seriously...because of the results I have seen in the past, just as Merme, Cindy and a few have already described. I am certain I do some things that some people would look at as not being very "Christian"...and that is fine, it may or may not be correct. But, as long as I am the one having to answer for it...then I see no need for anyone else to loose sleep over it. So, maybe these trying times for some of us now are lessons, maybe results of bad desicions, maybe both...and may be just a lesson for someone else to learn from. I don't always handle the bad stuff real well...you think I would learn!