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Getting the new CH all spruced up and ready just before the old one closes.



.... come on in and set a spell!

So this CH has those big ceiling fans which turn slowly using wicker blades shaped so soothingly and wide.

It has floor to ceiling windows and sheer white draperies which billow a bit in the strong sea breeze coming up from the beach through the trees. Just smell the heavenly scent of ocean and flowering vines mingled together!

We have big tables to serve a crowd and small bistro seating as well. The lights are dim and so the tiny lantern on each tabletop gives a warm and welcoming glow among the vases of roses, tiger lilies, anthuriums and showy orchids.

The sparkling fountain in the corner makes such a pleasant sound behind the strolling calypso band playing quietly for your amusement.

As always, food and drinks are on the house!

So, like the old saying goes if it seems too good to be true it probably is. The gift cards for the sunglasses come with a catch and after reading some reviews it sounds like they are just one of those companies that is trying to make their product sound better than it really is. The gift cards I got were for $500 each. The sunglasses they sell are between $200-$300 in general. They are not a high end brand name that everyone knows to be charging high end prices. To use the gift cards you have to pay a 9% fee based on the price of each pair of sunglasses. So, that's how they're making money on them. Besides, they're made in China and based on the reviews I read they are no better than $20 grocery store sunglasses, which are probably also made in China but at least those don't break my bank and I can try them on before I buy them. Oh well, no harm done and I'm glad I tried to do a little research on the company before getting too excited. The goody bag for this race wasn't all that great but it doesn't really matter. I got a really nice shirt, better than most race shirts, and it's only the 2nd year for this race. They don't have many sponsors and they have a limit to the number of racers, which I actually like as it won't be too crowded. They're are also feeding everyone a post race breakfast provided by a sponsor.

Anyway, I am still tired and worn out from yesterday. We've had some minor problems with the girls today which they turned into so much more. Their dad is talking to them for the second time today about the same thing. The first time he got frustrated and told them that they were being childish. He left them alone a while and went back down to try again. All of this because one of the girls decided to do laundry on my laundry day when they know they aren't supposed to. We've got a laundry schedule for a reason and they need to learn to follow it. We set it up so that they have Monday through Thursday to do their laundry and I get Friday, Saturday, and Sunday if I'm not at work. Basically, they get 4 days and I generally get 2. Ashley likes to go hang with her friends all day and she needs to learn to get her priorities straight. I asked them if I could do one load of towels on Thursday night so that we'd have clean towels for wild waves, and they were both fine with it. Besides, the reason we don't have enough towels has partly to do with the fact they won't reuse towels until they are all dirty, often leaving the rest of us with nothing. We can't yet afford to buy more towels and they know this. They used to sometimes use 2-3 towels a day and we had to put a rule into place that they were only allowed one towel a day. We were gone all day yesterday, today I went out and ran my errands and now it's going on 2pm so I decided I better get started on my laundry. What do I find in the washer? I washer full of wet clothes that didn't come from my basket. Ashley had a really negative attitude all morning and I can't deal with her when she's like that so I got dad involved. Amanda apologized to me, even though it was Ashley that wanted to do the laundry. I'm waiting for Ashley to apologize since when I asked her to get those clothes out of the washer asap she rudely told me it was Amanda's problem. Sorry, I really needed to vent. Of all the kids we are having the most problems with Ashley and it seems no matter what her dad tells her or counsels her on she seems determined not to listen to him and make her own life more miserable and then takes it out on us. She's also very bull headed and stubborn like her father.

Teens can be a royal pain. I am not always sure why. But it often has much to do with whomever they hang out with. They egg each other on. At least that was the case with my problem teen. She did outgrow it though. She will be 19 this week and has become a delight to be around.

I think a lot of has to do with her personality and the fact that they are twins. They have a lot of the same friends and everything is a competition, especially to Ashley. Amanda is more comfortable in her skin, more laid back, and generally pretty easy going and not too concerned about how others think of her. Ashley is constantly jealous of Amanda and feels that Amanda steals all of her friends. She's more concerned about what people think of her is much more confrontational. She tries too hard to be better than her sister and it ends up being to her own detriment. Ashley has twice as many texts per month as Amanda and is out of the house more often with friends than Amanda. However, Amanda has better relationships over all and can tell her friends when she's unavailable instead of worrying that every time she doesn't respond means her friends are beginning to hate her. Amanda is just the twin that is a little better at most things than Ashley is and I think Ashley takes some of that personally. They are both in puberty, which is awkward enough in trying to figure out who you are, but then to have twin issues on top of it just makes it more awkward and uncomfortable. One day Ashley will realize that she's her own person, with her own friends that like her for who she is, and will be free of constantly trying to be better than her sister. Just wish it would come sooner rather than later.

Gee. Cheryl, I'm sorry you are going through all of this! I have my troubles w/ Maxi and teenage attitudes, but at least he isn't a twin!! I hope things resolve peaceably soon for you all.

We've had dinner and now Maxi is getting showered up. We'll save laundry until tomorrow but that's the limit we can wait as he is leaving Monday morning again.

We are back from my MIl's place's picnic.
The drivers were messed up & I could not type--put they are recovered now--bless my computer's system.

Cheryl--so sorry for waht is going on. That is typical teen stuff. I can remember sitting on our kitchen chairs
nevert mind---DH weantws me I'll tell you later

I know it's typical teen stuff but it still sucks sometimes. Thanks for listening and letting me vent, that helps a lot. Things seem to be resolved, at least for now.

It is not typical teen stuff. Of my 4 normal kids (Teddy doesn't count) I only had one problematic teen. She says now she thought it had to be adversarial because her friends had the same approach.
Teens do have real hormonal issues to deal with.
It is a time for teens to stretch the apron stings quite naturally.
Teens all think adults are pretty dumb and haven't a clue as to how the world works.
Teens are invulnerable. None of those things that adults worry about can possibly happen to them.
Those are all normal teen stuff and you can most of the time see it and (laugh) and try to help them through it.
Then you get the teen who will never step onto your side of the fence. They think the world is at war with you and they are on the only right side. If you allow them to live or they don't do something completely stupid to themselves, they usually outgrow it at some point.
I hope your teen is not there, Cheryl. It is not pleasant.

Maxi and I had the rebellion conversation. I explained to him that rebellion is a natural part of being a healthy teen. The trick to it, though, I told him, is to find something useful to rebel with and not something detrimental so you don't "cut off your nose to spite your face". He laughed at that expression, as I knew he would.

I gave him the example of homework. If you rebel against homework, you only hurt yourself. Your parents are already educated so homework doesn't count. Your teacher is already educated & employed. Your not doing homework doesn't matter to the teacher's life.

I told him some teens rebel w/ religion and pick something totally different from what the family practices (shock value is happy stuff for some teens!).

But the smart teen will find a cause -- something really worth rebelling about -- such as social injustice or world hunger and get involved in the remedy for it.

He understood.

I just wanted him to somehow channel all that necessary rebellious energy into something other than flying off all over the place rebelling at every little thing, just because.

I can't get the girls to care about much of anything outside of themselves. I've taught them about healthy eating and why, they know about pollution, slave labor, child trafficking, etc. It's not part of their personal little world therefore it doesn't matter. I remember when I was in middle school and it was a tough time of life. You're desperate to fit in and no one wants to be the odd one out. Your friends are everything and the fact that your parents don't "get" that means they're stupid. I know that it will get better over the next few years as their minds mature and they start to become adults. I think the problems lie in the fact that they think they have adult minds and don't realize how immature they still are. They're in a transitioning phase right now. Ashley is also depressed that not one of her close friends is going to be at the same high school and most of the people she does know she doesn't like very well. I'm thinking that this will be a blessing in disguise for Ashley. She'll have the opportunity to make a whole new set of friends rather than trying to win back her old friends that like her twin sister better. Most of my friends met some of the their life long best friends while in high school, not before. I keep trying to tell her that but I don't think she really believes me. I just wish there was a way to get her out of the mindset that the world is against her, which I believe is how she feels at least some of the time. Aros has explained all this before. She just lets her emotions get in the way of her rational thinking most of the time and that's just going to take some time to grow out of I think.

Merme, boys are so much easier I think. They don't have all the extra emotional turmoil to fuel the rebellious fire. I guess we'll see over the next few years how Joey turns out but so far he's always been the easiest as far as behavior and attitude. He'll get an attitude but he gets over so much faster and without grudges than his sisters ever have.

Everyone's okay now. The girls have a clear set of laundry rules that are posted to the washer machine. The only reason why there was any laundry in the machine today was because they couldn't agree on who's turn it was to put it into the dryer. Yes, most of their fights are this petty and we generally just ignore them. I went and picked us up some teriyaki chicken for dinner and now we are all just doing our own thing. The girls are in their room watching a show, Joe's playing xbox live with friends, Aros and I are on our computers. I didn't do any weeding today. I just keep coming up with excuse after excuse to not finish that weeding. I just don't want to do it. I think it's because I'm really depressed about the sorry state my garden has become this year that I don't want to go out and really assess the damage. I gave up this year on it, not sure why. Probably just too many other things on my mind and it feels like work and I don't want to do work on my days off. Tomorrow we have to go grocery shopping but that's all we have to do and we'll do that in the evening when the crowds are lower so if I'm feeling okay after my race I'm forcing myself to get out there and just get 'er done!

Anyone know of any possible future ban on HFCS? Or maybe soda manufacturers are trying to see a way to get more money probably. At our grocery store they have anniversary additions of pepsi, mountain dew, and dr. pepper that are made with real sugar. They do taste different, definitely not as sweet, but I'm really enjoying the dr. pepper. I think I might read a bit while listening to some blues ladies sing in my ears before heading off to bed. I have to get up really early for my race tomorrow. It'll be good for me to run. See you all later!

I'm sorry, Cheryl, but I've forgotten how old the girls are now, exactly?

Maxi will be 15 in early October.

Your assessment of them sounds accurate and not too bleak. I like the positive overtones you have as that could be very important in the times ahead.

Yes, you are right: I too can remember when 'fitting in' was so important in middle school. But in my life it only mattered during school hours because we also had a very strong (perhaps too strong) family ethic and getting on well at home mattered more.

In high school, things changed again for us all because we attended a ginormous high school which had small groups of everything imaginable. So once you made it to the 11th-12th grade school, you could easily find a niche to belong. In a school that large, which could only handle two grades because of sheer size, you had to find a niche to participate with to have any sense of community at all. My school ultimately got so large it had to split into two districts -- East and West. So I don't personally know about attending a small or even medium sized school.

The "big" schools here tend to be about 100 or so per graduating class. And that seems more manageable to me. I hope Maxi enjoys high school.

The girls just turned 15 last week, they are almost the same age as Maxi and are in the same grade. 100 for a graduating class is pretty small here but we do live in a very large city. My graduating class in high school was over 200 and that was considered pretty small in comparison to other schools. I think somewhere around 300-350 is about average but I'm not really sure about that. I also have to remind myself to take into consideration what we've all been going through. Things are getting better but we are still going through some adjustments. We still don't have a permanent parenting plan and either the kids mom (more likely her husband) or her lawyer keep saying one thing and doing another causing all kinds of delays. Aros has had enough and told his lawyer to stop trying to negotiate and we'll let the judge decide at the hearing on Tuesday what the temporary orders should be until the official court date next year. Then, we'll have to adjust to school schedules and Aros starting to work as well in a few weeks here. Thank goodness I've found running. Sometimes it's the only thing that helps me clear my head and get rid of the negative build up.

I think Maxi will enjoy high school. He's a very smart kid and worked hard to get into such a nice school. He definitely won't be bored, instead he'll be challenged. I think that's great! He'll be at a school with like minded and smart kids just like him. Plus, he has his friend Dom, who seems like he is truly a great friend and Maxi is lucky to have him in his life. Joey doesn't have any good friends, yet, and girls will turn around and stab each other in the back if it benefits them, which is sad and something I'm sure those girls have learned from their mothers. At least they know there's an alternative.

My last load is in the dryer. I only run the dryer in the cool of the evening or early morning. I am getting ready to head towards my bed.

Have a great night Tina! I just stopped my dryer. Lucky for us it's in the basement so even if we happen to have a hot day it doesn't affect us upstairs. We don't run the dryer past 10 though because we don't want our neighbors (landlords) to get upset with the noise at night. I'm sensitive to foreign noises keeping me from sleeping so I'd hate for our landlords to be upset that we run our dryer when they're trying to sleep.

I'm off to bed too, got an early morning tomorrow. All my clothes are set out, my water bottle is freezing and the pockets of my hydration belt are packed and ready to go. All I have to do is get up, shower, dress, eat, and leave. Hope it doesn't rain, I've only done a couple races where it wasn't rainy or wet. I really want to get as close to one hour on this race as possible. I know those roads and can't think of any major hills so it should be a pretty easy race for me. See you in the morning!

That's my problem right now..and she does every stupid thing she can to herself

Hoping things get better soon Cheryl

Morning all, lots to do today..just have no clue where to start.

Good morning, Tamara.
I got lucky with my teen. Her father's illness threw her into grow-up-in-a-hurry mode. She is far from perfect but her general attitude is perfectly lovely. She may not help around the house but it is done with a smile and a pleasant demeanor.
Today I am going to rake before the heat comes to visit for a long stay.

Good morning Tamara and Tina. I'm working on a bowl of oat bran. My stomach isn't feeling so hot and I'm hoping this will settle it down.

I hope it helps, Cheryl. Good luck on your run today.

Happy Sunday, everybody!


Cheryl I hope your tummy settled down and you are having a great run.

Oh, I hadn't realized your girls and Maxi are the same age! For some reason, I thought the girls were still younger.

You are right: Dom is a good friend to Maxi. Yesterday he was so excited about Maxi coming home, he was here hours earlier than he needed to be. I was playing one of my on-line games and this one featured decorating a house between rounds of the game. Dom sat here playing the game w/ me, giving all his opinions on the home decor (he has a good eye for color and shape). It made me chuckle. We got most of the house done before he got restless and needed a bike ride. He about talked our ears off about all the fun he & Maxi are going to have before school starts up again. He is so proud of Maxi for gaining entrance to Cheverus but is heartsick they won't be together for high school.

I hope Joey makes a good friend like that as time goes by.

I think one reason parents get so concerned for the young people -- besides wanting the household to run smoothly -- is that we understand how complex adult living is and we see areas in the young which aren't developed enough to tackle life. So, we fret!

Hi

Diane! Ran a good race today, even though it was a wet one. I've only had one sunny race all year. Eh, Seattle is unpredictable. I'd rather it be 50 and raining than 90 and sweltering. I'll have to look up my time but I'm pretty sure this is the fastest 10k I've done by about four minutes! That's huge. It helps that this one had very few hills and the ones it did have weren't so bad and short lived. I'm pretty hungry and tired. Debating whether or not I should eat breakfast alone or just eat something small and wait for everyone else to wake up. Maybe I'll have a protein shake, that'll tide me over.

HI Diane !!

Cheryl, glad the race went well for you.

Merme, I am so glad that maxi has such a good friend. Having one can make all of the difference.

Hi Tina, don't work too hard.

Tamara: I hope today goes well. I am sure you will figure it all out.

I am so so tired. I think a nap is in order--but it is so late in the day to do that. I amy well do so anyway...

I feel a second nap coming on. Man, I just can't stop eating and sleeping today.

I took a decent little nap. Now I am getting my son ready for a new school week.

These grand-puppies have got to go home soon. They get up with Rodney every morning at 4am & think it is time to go out. he does not take them out so of course when he leaves they come to get me up (at 5am). I am not a person to go back to sleep.

so they do not "get" the weekend. today I was awakened at a bit before 5. I had a nap but my eyes are still heavy. I think tonight will be an earlier than usual night. Praise the Lord they go home tomorrow night.

Night night.....

Goodnight, Carol.
I love my mornings and so does my dog. I am glad I do. This week is to be a very hot one so mornings will be my only time to work outside.

I so need to get the dogs out & then get to bed. But I am waiting for Valarie to get into STL airport. She was in a weekend trip.

she left Denver at 7pm (or perhgaps it was 7 their time.
takes 2 hours so she likley have 15 more minutes.

I am yawning so much!!! I am sleepy for sure.................

when I was younger I too loved mornings. But not so much any more.

I think it is suppsed to be cooler here this week. I hope so--I need to get some yard work done myself...... :wink:

OK so it is 29 minutes later than the above post........
Valarie's ETA is 37 minutes from now----

I just got a text from Valarie
They got it & have been picked up at the Airport & are on their way home.

I am way tired, & am going to sleep now--nite nite.

Good morning everybody!!

Good morning everyone. I am making my second cup of coffee as we "speak".

I need to plan today's schedule yet.....

Did someone say coffee? Good morning everyone! How did Monday get here so fast? I don't feel like working, my leg is sore and I'm tired today. Oh well, I'll get through it. Maybe a walk later will help. I don't have too busy of a day today so at least there's that. I'm also cooking a really quick and easy dinner tonight so I'll get to relax and go to bed early. Maybe I'll take a nice bath tonight, haven't dine that in a while. Hope everyone has a good day!

Good morning. I got my son off to school and now I am hiding indoors from the heat. Triple digits today and as high as 110* tomorrow and Wednesday. I will take it easy and only go out to change sprinklers.

Hi all,
Been a busy morning... first day of school.. Nicoli's first day of kindergarten- he was find- Mom was upset... her baby in big school...LOL! I went to get my blood work done- that went okay- now to wait for results...
After we took Carrie out to breakfast with us... was nice- we hadn't done that in a long time...next is banking and errand running... out of some stuff we really need so off to a store- Joe wants to get the oil changed on the Tahoe too.. put a lot of miles on it on vacation and trip to Vegas and back... it's overdue.. needs to be washed too.. convinced Joe to take it to car wash and have it done- his back is out again- not bad and getting better... but he doesn't need to climb on a ladder to wash it.
I have been walking almost every night the last week or so.. I have lost about 4 lbs since we got back from vacation... want to get a pedometer to keep track of my steps, really want to get down to a reasonable weight... between my meds and diet changes my blood pressure is down in the almost normal range most of the time so every little bit will help...
We are cooling off this week- cold front coming in ..only supposed to be 88* today...nice... may get out and enjoy the yard...
Well off to get started.....
Nana

It sounds like you are on the right track for your health, Nana.
I dislike trying to wash my car in my dirt driveway. Every time one of my adult kids asks me what I would like for Christmas or b-day or other gifting times. I tell them gift certificates for my favorite hand wash place. And between visits there I will run it through the cheapo automatic wash.
I am getting ready to brave the heat and go pick up my son from school.

The girls found out this evening that swimming practice started today. Not sure how they were supposed to have known that ahead of time but they were assured that it was okay that they missed the first day. Now, we have to scramble tonight to find them suitable swim suits, caps, and goggles. More money that we don't really have. We have a court hearing tomorrow for temporary orders tomorrow so hopefully that means that we'll start getting child support to help pay for all this school stuff. We haven't even started on the school supplies yet and Joey doesn't have his school schedule yet either. Have a great night everyone!

it is always something it seems huh, Cheryl??? I hope the hearing works out for you. But hopefully now that Aros will be working things will get easier for you all. All of this you both are doing for the kids will not be lost. The kids will be better people & then someday parents themselves because of all they see done for them.

It is sad about the school & their apparent lack of organization. I would keep an extra watch on Joey's schedule in view of what was done with the girls.

I hope that you have easy sailing with the school supplies and swim gear, Cheryl.
It was a long hot day here today and supposed to get there again tomorrow only hotter.
I will not complain. The summer so far has been as near perfect as it can get.

WE are supposed to have a cooler week, before it heats back up once again.. I hope to have enough time to do a bit more yard work.

night night everyone....sweet dreams to all of you........

Since I am awake I am popping in to say goood morning & tell you all of my Day.

Of course ceramics today until noon.
Then I pick up my MIL: to take her to her eye Drs appointment.
Before we ge there I will stop at the county court house & pick up papers to protest my property taxes.
I constantly say that my house is not worth what they say. They agree, lower my value & then raise my multiplyer---I guess I should not bother.
But then that is what they want me to do, right?

Tomorrow is a repeat of today in that I have to take my MIL to another Dr for another check-up.

I wish everyone a good day.

Good morning!
Carol, you are a very good daughter-in-law.

Good morning Tina & thanks much. Sometimes I do not feel like it though.

off to ceramic now--

Just in to say I am at DD's for a bit and won't have much time to chat...I'll check back in when I can..

Baby is fine...but her mommy is over-tired.

Hi, Tamara. Take care of the sweet baby so mom can rest. And make sure to care for yourself in there too.

Tamara, I'm glad you are there for them. That's great!

Carol I hope your busy days go well.

Good morning! Short day at work today because I'm taking Aros to the courthouse. I just wish it wasn't downtown. Oh well, it's for a good cause. Since I'll be home early I think I'll go running this afternoon. I'm sure I'll need it. The girls go to their first swim practice today. They helped pay for their swim gear and got some really nice suits. They also got caps, goggles, and nose plugs, even though I tried to tell them they won't need nose plugs. What do I know? I'm the only one that has any experience with competitive swimming. They weren't expensive and the girls think they'll want them so we'll see.

Have fun at ceramics, Carol!

Tamara, glad you're there for for your DD. Got to see baby Madisson sooner than you thought.

Good morning, Tina! Hope you're staying cool today!

I'll check back in later and let you know how court went. Until then, I better get some work done.

I've spent the entire day on the phone taking care of business and setting up my hospital visit for next week. What a busy, boring day!

And, I'm going to miss Maxi's first day of high school at Cheverus!

Merme, so sorry to hear that you're going to miss Maxi's first day at school. I know how much it means to both of you that he's going to that school. He knows you'll be there in spirit and that you would have been there if you could and it wasn't your fault.

Our lawyer got the other lawyer to finally agree on something. With the courtroom at her back she couldn't delay us anymore. It was either come to an agreement or let the commissioner sign the temporary orders, which were heavily in our favor. Temporary support has also been ordered. Support is temporary because Aros is going to be working soon and his ex is making more now too so after Aros knows how much money he's making and how much he'll be paying for health insurance the support will be re-worked and finalized. At least we finally made it to the next step and the worst is over.

The girls will be coming home from their first day of swim practice pretty soon. They are having a fight and not talking right now. Turns out Amanda had something stolen from a friend of Ashley's and told her dad. We already knew that kid was trouble and Aros had to sit and have a really harsh heart to heart with Ashley about not being able to get over the "bad boy" and told her that if she's caught associating with him in any way that her phone would be taken away. Ashley has over 10,000 texts a month so to have her phone taken away would be devastating for her. Thank goodness that he will be going to a different high school.

Yes a different school and a degree of separation is a good thing, Charyl.

I'm sorry, Cheryl, I'm not trying to be dense but I do not understand what you mean by this sentence. What happened?

I am so cold tonight, I am thinking of making some old-fashioned hot cocoa & adding a shot of rum and taking it to bed with me.

Merme *thinking of crocheting again*

So, the girls have this friend named Alejandro. He used to be Ashley's boyfriend back in 7th grade. He wasn't very nice to her a lot of the time and even tried to get Ashley to give back a gift, threatening that his dad could have her arrested (his dad is a cop). Of the things we've found out about this kid we warned both girls that he was headed for trouble. We could see where he was headed years ago. Amanda remained friends with him for a while but stopped being his friend for the most part in 8th grade. Ashley still has a thing for him, admitting once that she would do just about anything to be his girlfriend again, even though he was often not very nice to her and they fought a lot. Aros told the girls that he didn't them hanging out with him anymore. So, this summer the girls have been hanging out with friends at Greenlake. It's the teenage hot spot for this summer. We bought the girls new phones for their birthdays and Ashley's phone didn't work right so we had to get another ordered so we could swap it. When we went to get Ashley's new phone Amanda showed us the new headphones that came with her new phone. They weren't new at all and weren't even iphone headphones. They were old style ipod headphones that were obviously used. The apple store gave us a new pair and it wasn't until last night that Amanda figured it out. Apparently Alejandro had taken Amanda's new headphones and swapped them with his own old headphones. Ashley was the one who invited Alejandro to meet them at the beach. Amanda never wanted to hang out with him this summer and never invited him. Amanda felt that because it was Ashley who invited Alejandro that is was Ashley's fault that her headphones were stolen at all. Ashley's mad at Amanda for telling her dad that she's been hanging out with him this summer and is now not allowed to associate with him at all or else she loses her phone. The fact that she can't get over this boy, lets him walk all over her, talk bad about and steal from her sister, is bad news. That kind of mentality is part of the reason that the kids don't see their mom now, their mom puts more importance on her husband than anything else. Ashley is hurt and upset with her mom for choosing her husband over her kids and yet Ashley is heading down that same road by not being able to kick this stupid kid to the curb. So, that was the tough love talk she had last night. She's really crabby today too, you can tell she's not happy but she needs to take responsibility for actions instead of blaming her sister (who did the right thing) for getting her into trouble. She's not even in trouble, she's just banned from a boy. Sorry, it was a lot to explain but I hope I made it clearer for you?

Well, I'm pretty beat and I have laundry that has been waiting for me for a couple days. Guess I should put it away and then maybe hit the hay early tonight. It's been an emotional day.

It is much clearer. I also did not understand that sentence above but saw that a not-well-behaved boy was involved somehow. And the handling of it is good,I think.

thanks for explaning this to us. I applaude you and Aros for catching this in the bud so to speak & dealing with it in such a responsible manner. I also agree that Amanda did the right thing.

I hope the laundry goes quickly & that you get a good nights sleep.

Good night all. Too hot to stay up longer. Probably too hot to sleep well either. We shall see.

good night Tina--I'm on my way to sleep as well. Sweet dreams.

Good Morning- coffee is on- have some banana bread warm out of oven too.... have iced tea for those to hot to have coffee... it's chilly here this morning- but supposed to warm back up to 90's rest of this week- 54* right now..
Was up way to early... went to sleep early and woke up about 4 but may go back for a nap after Joe goes to work...LOL!

I understood you Cheryl... LOL! guess we speak same language.... I think you do need to make her understand letting a boy do this is not a good thing... my youngest daughter was like that- she ended up being being almost kidnapped from school and who knows what could have happened- we ended up in court twice pressing charges against the boy... she learned the lesson the hard way....

Well going to go get my coffee and eat some oatmeal... I am hungry this morning..
Have a good day!
Nana

good morning. I slept so well I did not even hear DH get up this morning.
Have coffee made, a load of clothes washed & am now going to jump in the shower & get ready to leave,
Need to take MIL to another Dr's check-up today.
I may get lunch out of it as well though.
Just got a phone call & my freezer is in.--I hope we can get it home tonight.
I feel lost without one.

catch ya all later....

Good morning. I am still head-achy but I am sure that is weather related. Tomorrow is supposed to be the last day of our heat wave. I can hardly wait.

I slept pretty good. Still doesn't feel like it was enough though. I think I'm emotionally drained and it's making me feel tired. We got it worked out with the swimming to delay paying the extra costs for the girls until the end if September. That's a relief. 2 hours and 45 minutes left of my day. It's not coming soon enough but it will get here.

Glad you're getting some relief from the heat, Tina. I don't like hot weather.

I am trying to not complain. Because I have had the most awesome summer I remember in my lifetime of living here. The whole last year has been wonderful and modified from our norms. We had the coolest July ever in recorded history. August up to now has been below normal and even now is barely touching norm and not anywhere near our high for the date.
Today never reached as hot as they warned us because we had clouds come in and kept us a little cooler. But it raised the humidity so it is a wash. There are some thunderstorms around me.

It's been unusual weather here, too, all summer. Mostly nice, though!

Cheryl I'm so sorry for that situation you described. I hope Ashley takes her dad's advice to heart and cans this boy permanently! Hopefully she'll see that Amanda was right to tell.

I'm very tired tonight but my back isn't too bad so hopefully I'll sleep well.

And, Maxi is home! YAY!

our usual "max of 80-85" has turned into a "max of 105" in the last couple of years... I'd prefer the prior lol

Ah, you mean temps. I got confused.

Yuppers. 80 is MUCH preferable to 105 any day!!!!

we had a beautiful day here--cool breezes--high of 81--sunny but not humid.
yes a lovely day!!!!

now if it would just stay like this for say 12 more months---ya know???

Good night all. I am tired. And I really didn't do much.

Good night, Tina Rest well.

going to sleep myself now.

nite nite

Sorry I disappeared on y'all last night. But I knocked over a remnant cup of tea. Most of it went into my lap, some on the floor, and a small amount onto the modem! Bye bye internet until this morning!

Apparently modems do not like hot tea w/ honey as much as I do!!

I'm just glad I didn't have to replace the silly thing. YAY!

Yesterday the post office delivered a large box for Maxi. Trouble was, it was pouring out -- a real deluge! By the time I got home from dialysis, that box just disintegrated! The clothes inside were sopping wet. Many of the paper type school supplies were ruined. My cousin paid $26 to ship that box for a 2 day delivery. They should have held it at the post office and left me a delivery notice. My driver helped me pick up all the bits of fallen apart box so I could get in the front door. Maxi helped me hang up all the wet clothes. What a messy mess we had!

Good morning. Another hot one.

Good morning 63*F here right now--supposed to be a high of 78.

I will take this kind of weather as long as I can get it.

Hi all..I know I haven't been in for a bit but I just can't find the time..still at DD's for a few days.

Hoping all is well, I'm gonna try read back and catch up.

nice to see ya.
Take care & have fun with little Madisson. (I'm sure you are)

Hi Carol..I love my time with Madisson but not the city. I am so lost and it costs a fortune here...I am thinking of heading home Saturday on the bus, I can't arrange a drive this time.

I wish i could bring them home with me..

oh my so sorry about having to use the bus.

and it is a shame you can't just pack them all 3 up & bring them home with you. I am with you there about the city. :wink:

The town I live in has around 1,000 people & that is plenty good for me.

Baby has another appointment tomorrow, then her pictures should be in at the photographer studio at WalMart in the afternoon...if so I'll catch the main bus Saturday morning to go home. These unplanned trips/expenses are taking a bite out of our budget..yikes.

I told them I won't be able to come back for another month(sis-in-law needs to come down the end of September for two days so I'll tag along)..

I'm hoping to salvage whats left of my garden to bottle up a bit for winter...won't be much but it'll have to do.

I am so sorry that you live so far away form each other. I know it wouild be hard for me, so I understand. It is good that
the appointment & the pictures being ready both worked out so well though.
I also understnd about unexpected expense--

so glad that you will be able to catch a ride back the end of September. That is not really so far away in time.

I hope there wil be enough left of your garden to make it worth the work.
I have a recipe for cooked end of year tomatoes, peppers & onion & such that freezes well if that would help.

I need to go start supper. DH has a lot of work to do tonight & will want to eat ASAP.
Have a nioce evening Tamara.
See ya all everyone.

Welcome back, Tamara. I hope you are also getting to enjoy some baby time.

gee my house is warm for such a cool day & for a day where the AC only ran one time

what is up tonight--anyone home???